You have been
studying the articles since long time that girls should be treated equal to
boys and they should be provided with the equal educational and career
opportunity as that of boys by their parents. But no one has ever tried to see
the other side of the coin.
In the ancient
days girls were not advised to pursue study, on the other hand to be well
versed in household activities was considered more important rather than being
good in studies. Whether they are studying or not or how much seriously they
are taking their studies nobody bothers, if they are good in studies then Ok if
not then it is still ok, whereas to be not good in home chores was the thing
that cannot be tolerated. They have been allowed to pass matriculation or at
the max graduation just to fulfill the criteria of getting a more educated
groom. Their total upbringing was like this so as their mindset, but nowadays
girls education are also being taken seriously by their parents. How they are
performing in studies is also considered, they have been provided by all the
aids like tuitions, coaching etc that help them to perform better in studies
that would initially been provided to boys only. Nowadays girls dream to become
doctor, engineer, scientist, astronaut, pilot …why..Because their mindset got
changed due to the change in their upbringing.
This is the
actual cause of the problem. After facing all the challenges of today’s
educational competitive environment suppose a girl has achieved what she wants.
But does to perform her duties is as easy for her as would be for a man. The
answer is No, why…just think.........
Can she work
alone for some late hours at her workplace to complete her assignments?
Even if she
working alone, is it safe for her to travel alone from her workplace to home?
Can she travel
alone to some other place to attend presentation, conferences, seminars
etc, if she has to travel she cannot take late night buses, trains, flights,
what if she will not get booked accommodation, how she’ll travel alone with
taxi driver, will my family members allow me to travel, or if I’ll go they will
be worried, all this bring additional tension and hassle for her, which would
not have been for boys. The result is rejection of some excellent career
opportunities by her just because of these so-called girls’ specific issues.
Now, what their boss will think…she is not as efficient as a boy would have
been in her place, so he’ll always be looking for her replacement, and
eventually when things become more critical for her especially at the time of
her conception or when her baby is small (another girl specific issue), she is
totally being replaced by a so called suitable or more efficient person. No one
bothers how much dedicated, sincere, hard working she was, or she is not doing
this intentionally. Can you think of mental state of her that despite being
performed diligently, irrespective of all her compromises being made, she is
now being treated as a useless object?
What happens at
the family front, are the things smooth there?? They have their own
expectations from her. In families a man is considered as bread winner, so he
is the one who needs to perform. A lady works simply because either this is just
her hobby or so that she can be source of some additional income for family. Any
career-oriented decision taken by her at the expense of family priorities cannot
be tolerated. The first priority of Indian girl would always be her family and
despite of her tremendous effort she always listens that she could have been a
better mother, a better daughter-in-law
even a better wife, if she would not have been working. Can mere the fact of
being self-employed deteriorates the tenderness of heart of a lady, her
motherhood? Now think the mental state of her that despite of tremendous effort
to maintain balance between her career and family life, she never been able to
satisfy anybody.
Her dreams,
ambitions which are fed into her mind at the time of her upbringing are no
longer valid. Then what is the benefit of giving education to her. Even if the
parents treat their daughter equal which nowadays most of them do, are they
being treated equally by society??When nature itself discriminates with girls, then
how can you expect others not to do?? That’s why I believe, ancient days were
better for girls where they were brought up in the manner, that they do not
have any dream, so if they are not able to achieve it, it doesn’t bother to
them, but what’s happening nowadays, we are giving them wings to fly, and when
they learnt or want to fly we are crushing their wings which is more painful
for her to handle.
Girls if supported
can be an excellent employee for their employer and at the same can be a good
mother and wife too without any doubt. The only thing they expect is the support
at crucial time of their life, this support can motivate them to perform even
better despite of all odds. So support your wife, mother, colleague,
sub-ordinate and see the brightness in her eyes and correspondingly the results…………..